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PostPosted: Sat Mar 10, 2007 10:56 am
by 601blues
I hope I spelled dat right!!! But I have heard that word everywhere I go, in church he sacraficed for us, etc, But that is a word I have wondered about with my music, and that is what I have sacraficed over the years was my music, I have always been made to feel guilty about playin music, Questions Like, ARE YOU GOING TO SACRAFICE YOUR WHOLE LIFE FOR THAT DAM GUITAR??????A question that always came from My GrandFather, or ARE YOU GONNA SACRAFICE YOUR EDCUATION FOR THAT DAM GUITAR??? You get the drift!!any way that is the way it has always been for me no encouragement from the ones that have my ear, and I have always had a guilt over me everytime I have given anytime to my Music, Its like I feel like I have to hide it always keepin it secret, It seems Like The Devil wants to just Keep me away from my guitar at any cost, ARE YOU GONNA SACRAFICE YOU FAMILY FOR THAT DAM GUITAR??well I layed it all down in 1975 sold everything,after a tour with Marshall Tucker, Elvin Bishop,and 10 Years After, I was doin lead guitar for White Witch at the time, Ended up with a Coke monster on muh Back so I quit over night everything Coke, Music, The Road ,I disappeared,no one could find me, I sold anything I had that made a music note , And Settled down with my Wife,and soon to be 1st son,and it was 15 years and 4 sons later Before I even owned a guitar or played a note on one!! Now 30 years later I have resumed my music, But still have that guilt monster on me, 5 years ago I had a small trio My sax player Lil Mac, and drummer and Me, we were playin the Casino gigs twice a week, and makin with tips and CD sales about 500 each over the weekend, Till I was offered a Job as project Manager for a Major Company, for at the time a good salary, and lots of travel, I took it put my music away with out a thought, and for 5 years Went all over the world, but no music!! Now For the past three years I have resumed and have Lil Mac back with me, and we are rebuildin and startin to get a groove together, NOW yesterday I was offered a Job That will pay me about 50% more that Iam makin now on a 3 year project in North Carolina, I turned it Down!!! Now Iam sittin here This morning Tellin people I don't even Know on this site What Iam feelin!! But I am feelin guilty cause I turned it down for THIS DAM GUITAR!! YES IAm SACRAFICING !!Iam gettin older and just want to do somphin I wanna do and have dreamed of doin before my time is up!! Now I have heard some say My wife will kill me if I buy another Guitar etc,so I know some of you have had guilt crap layed on you about your music, but people just don't understand the emotion of a musician, TELL ABOUT YOUR SARAFICE!!

PostPosted: Sat Mar 10, 2007 3:46 pm
by houserocker
Hi 601, White Whitch, I used to jam with Teddy Pendegras down here in Tampa before he passed away. I take it from your post that were probably about the same age so I can relate to what your going through. I walked away from a very high paying job about a year ago for alot of the same reasons, I'm not getting any younger and I've worked hard all my life raising a family, now I'm going to enjoy my music!! I got another job with alot less responsability and a more flexible schedule, so I could play more. I do about 150 dates a year now and couldn't be happier. So don't think that your sacrificing anything or let it worry you, in the end what matters most is that your happy, NO amount of money can change that. You have done good, raised a Family, now it's your turn!

PostPosted: Sat Mar 10, 2007 4:30 pm
Hey 601.

I don't think anyone here can tell you what is the right thing for you. I think most people reach a point in their life however, where they say to themselves, before my life totally passes, I want to do something besides work a job, something besides be just a machine part.

The people we admire in life, other than perhaps personal, family heroes, usually aren't the tractor part salesmen who had a good career or the best worker at the furniture plant. It's the people that went their own way, did unusual things, took risks. People who were Adventurers with their lives. While the rest of the world watches and admires but can't get past the fear of taking the jump, the risk of the dark, unsecured future. It appears you've made such a choice. To be an adventurer and a hero.


PostPosted: Sat Mar 10, 2007 4:54 pm
by ricochet
Yeah, you've got to do what you feel like you need to do. Life's short, but it's too long to live regretting what might have been.

PostPosted: Sat Mar 10, 2007 4:56 pm
by jeffl
Well said,Moony. I personally appreciate the fact that there are the minstrels of the world who are willing to sacrifice income,job benefits,etc., to keep the rest of us in music. Obviously,some guys make music pay off financially, but the vast majority don't. Possibly the best musician around here is basically a solo guitar/singer who plays a restaurant two nites/wk., and I'm sure doesn't make much. He plays mostly jazz when alone, and leans to old classic country when he gigs with a band. I'd love to approach him about playin' some chromatic harp with his stuff, but I fear that he would just translate the offer into the threat of me cutting into his "take". I hope that I can retire soon enough to jus' gig harp for a while before old age sets in.

PostPosted: Sat Mar 10, 2007 4:57 pm
by 601blues
:lol: Thanks HR,and NM< It does make me take a sigh of relief to hear others are at the same crossroad as Iam at this point, I thought I might be a little nuts to be takin my music that serious, but I just want as you guys to take time for myself!! MAN YOU GUYS made MY DAY!! THANKS

PostPosted: Sat Mar 10, 2007 5:12 pm
by grady
I never was happy until I quit listening to other people's advice and started doing what I wanted to do.
Life has been great ever since.
I couldn't be happier.

I play out enough to provide for me & my Son and I spend all my time with him.

As far as other people supporting your Music,
They'll support you as soon as they see the Money you can make playing for a living.
I've been playing full-time for 3 years and have yet to go a week without at least 2 gigs.

I'm glad I woke up and started doing what I wanted to before it was too late.
I'll be 40 this June and can't see myself ever doing anything but playing music.
I was offered a job working for Clear Channel Radio this week.
It would have a lot of "percs" but, I don't know.
Having a Boss would suck.

PostPosted: Sat Mar 10, 2007 5:15 pm
by houserocker
Glad it helped 601. it was Buddy Pendegras not Teddy as I posted earlier in White Witch if I remember right, thats been a long time ago.

PostPosted: Sat Mar 10, 2007 5:20 pm
by allanlummox
Every female I got involved with - until I met Jane - fell for the musician and then tried to change him.

So I suppose that I've sacrificed making a bad marriage and dealing with shrewish women for my music.

PostPosted: Sat Mar 10, 2007 6:16 pm
by texas blues
Dan I hear you. Before I got married, my gal never came to gigs, which was cool with me. I considered my private life seperate from my music life. I was working the day job thang' and gigging only occasionally. But then after we got married, I am trying to get this gig and is a bit frustrating and she says.."what's the big's just a hobby anyway right?" I spent the next 9 years after that trying to make her happy. so stupido! Adios! My new gal? Hmmm.....lemme' see..oh yeah, she's buying me a new Flying V!! I think I'll keep her, V or not!

PostPosted: Sat Mar 10, 2007 6:23 pm
by mickeypainless
>>>Life's short, but it's too long to live regretting what might have been.

I LOVE THAT! What a great saying Ric, it's gonna go in my book of cool outlooks of life!

I've been very blessed in that I've never really given a rip what other people think and by taken the attitude that if ya do what yer passionate about and ya do it to the best of your ability, the money part takes care of itself! My last real job was my 4 year stint in the US Navy and due to the fact that I defy authority and don't play well with others I have been self employed my entire adult life. Anytime I have considered being "employed" in the past my mate of over a qtr of a century reminds me that I would be miserable workin for someone else no matter how much I'd be paid!
My hat is off to ya 601 as well as to the rest of yaz that pursue the dreams or YOUR life!

PostPosted: Sat Mar 10, 2007 6:36 pm
by allanlummox
Jane doesn't come out to many shows - although she was there last night.

She does hear me play for hours at home.

On the other hand, it would be hard to imagine a more supportive wife.

She fell for the picker, and stayed felled.

PostPosted: Sat Mar 10, 2007 6:40 pm
by 1four5
This is the thread I desperately needed to read. My stint with the military is finally over in august of next year (if I want it to be) after 22 years. I know what I want to do. You all are definately helping. If I stay in it means retraining, more schools, and better chances of playing in the sand box...I'm to old for that anymore. Thanks 601...I just wanna play 8) biological clock for being able to grow and nurture a full head of long hair is ticking... :shock:

PostPosted: Sat Mar 10, 2007 7:50 pm
by ricochet
Hair? We don't need no steenkin' hair.

PostPosted: Sat Mar 10, 2007 7:56 pm
by jeffl
I played full-time for a coupla years when I got outa college, and I drank like a fish when I wasn't playin'. I hated playin' for drunks, and then when I wasn't playin', I was just like the drunks. I left the business 'cuz I had no personal discipline. I still don't wanna gig in bars much,for a number of reasons, but I wouldn't mind puttin' together a good band that would stay together,for playin' weddings,parties,fests,and corporate gigs. I still think if a band has the right business plan, you could gig clubs for a year or two, produce a good recording, develop a following, and then move away from the bar gigs to the other kind and stick with 'em. Pipe dream,huh.....